Who’s feeding your Anger?

For one and a half year already, I was not able to watch a TV series because of our family decision to put away TV in our home due to the exposure of TV shows and advertisements that are inconsistent to our Christian values. The decision we made was very hard but it was necessary. It was hard because I was used to watching TV while I was growing up. If you make me watch TV (with a TV show of course), then my eyes would just glue on the screen. My wife knows about it. One of my fears also is that the kids won’t have any more TV life. But it was necessary in order for our home to live and grow on the values that we Christians have to adapt.

But what I missed watching a TV series is their unique way on how to run their story. Usual TV series would have a flashback on the lives of the characters and how the drama came about because of their history. What’s one of the most anticipated part in watching a TV series is, not only that you can catch on your favorite star who got a starring role, but also who is the villain or  of the story, and that makes a story more flavorful. Some of the TV series that I watched is that they would always keep the identity of the real villain until later of the TV series would run, maybe a few more weeks. We would always want to know who’s going to be the real villain. We keep on guessing and guessing. Their faces somehow be covered mysteriously. Until the show would reveal the villain and then we would say, “I knew it! I knew it! He’s the villain!”

We give our conclusion to such because the story leads to this kind of character. And what makes us conclude that this character is the villain of the story is because of how the TV series portrays the villain. In every show, they give hints; they give actions. And not only that, they stir our emotions and make us angry to the villain, probably making the starring role suffer in his/her hands. The show is feeding information in our minds to make us angry on the villain. And I think that’s the role of the villain…to be the unlikeable character — to be the subject of our hatred and anger.

But in reality, our anger to someone or to something is oftentimes misdirected. We might think that our anger is just right but actually it’s not. According to Jeffrey Rubin, “Anger is an emotional state, experienced by everyone, but impossible to define precisely.” Gary Collins added that “human beings, as we are, are imperfect and we see each situation from our own perspectives. We are not always able to judge accurately on what’s the real injustice or the seemingly injustice. As a result, we sometimes become angry over issues that we think are wrong but which, in fact, would not be considered wrong if we had all the facts. Sinful self-interest often causes our perceptions to be distorted or misleading, going to our biases. Because we feel vulnerable, threatened, or inclined to be critical, we can misinterpret the actions of others and jump to angry, perhaps unjustified conclusions.”angry

Somehow, in our anger, we can immediately come up to a conclusion and make unmindful decisions. But is it possible that we can explore more of our anger and make wise decisions in life?

A Personal Project: A few questions to ponder and think about:

  • What is making me feel angry?
  • Am I jumping to conclusions about the situation or person who is making me feel angry?
  • Are there things I can do to change the situation in order to reduce my anger?

Author: effemamancio

a husband of one loving wife, a father of three handsome and affectionate boys, a man richly blessed by His Creator, a being called to love and imitate CHRIST

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